Kathy's Thoughts

My thoughts on life around me and trying to find the true me.

Modern Day Bullying

on March 25, 2012

“Bullying builds character like nuclear waste creates superheroes. It’s a rare occurrence and often does much more damage than endowment.”
Zack W. Van

When one thinks of a Bully, one thinks of the big Boy on the playground that goes around stealing other kids lunch money.  That is the image I grew up with anyway.  Up until a few weeks ago, I wondered why our Schools were spending so much money year after year drilling the no bullying concept into the mold-able little brains of our Children.

Could kids really still be that bad?  We don’t send our kids to school with actual money for lunch anymore.  Cash is pretty much obsolete after all.

I have since noticed it on the School bus.  I have seen parents complaining of it on facebook.  I have seen the Children that are left out.  My own being own of them.  My Daughter shrugs them off  because at the tender age of 11, she has already figured out that they are the ones with a problem.

The School is doing what it can to nip this in the bud.  A new strategy is employed each year.   I can’t say that it will eradicate the problem but I think it is doing a good job of at least calling attention to it.  Our kids are learning how to be compassionate and more importantly they are learning how to be accepting.  They are realizing that not everyone looks alike, thinks alike, likes the same sports, etc and that is ok.

My concern is not for the youth of  today but remarkably the youth of yesterday!  That’s right, MY generation.  Let’s face it folks, would we really need to teach our Children about bullies if they didn’t exist?  Where did they learn this behavior from?  Yes, I subscribe to the theory that bullying is a learned behavior.  You don’t need to agree but please don’t discount the idea.

I am finding that most of  the kids that are bullies or exhibit bully like behavior are learning it from their parents!   You know the type.  The ones that were popular in High School and seem to think that 20+ years later that they still have something to prove.  The ones that feel the need to dictate what their “friends” can and cannot wear, say, drink and with whom they can associate.  They have figured out over the years how to make it seem like they are just gossiping about something or someone while getting you to drink in their every word and agree that yes, Mary is a horrible person for wanting to introduce new programs into the school.   The truth is that they are jealous that Mary thought of the idea first and is getting credit for it.  Meanwhile, they are losing sight of the fact that what matters is that the children are getting a program that they will love and don’t care who introduced it!

In the spirit of responsible parenting, do yourself a favor and teach your kids that they are beautiful, strong individuals and they can do anything they put their mind to despite what others may say about them.

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